First of all, this blogpost has nothing to do with photography. It does however cover a little bit of business and personal honesty from my side.
Lately I’ve been thinking about what causes stress and anger in my life and in the life of others and I’ve realized that the majority of stress in my life is caused by no one else but myself!
I’ve spent a lot of time the past few years being envious and thereafter constantly annoyed. I got tired of being jealous so I spent a lot of time convincing myself not to care and rather be happy for the people I used to envy! This has worked for me. It took a lot of time, but it worked!
I later on tried to figure out how they could have such an affect on my life! These are people I don’t really know, or at least not very well, in real life! So I asked myself where do you see or interact with the ones that affect your life so much!? In real life? Facebook? Twitter? Instagram?
In my case, the answer was social media!
In social media, people (at least in my industry) always brag about their accomplishments, which is fair. I do this myself because most of the time I’m proud of what I do! But by constantly reading about what the people you envy has done and accomplished, you might be breaking apart! And believe me, this does NOT give you better self confidence. The cool thing about social media is that you can simply choose how much you wanna be a part of it! Does it kill you to hide or remove a “friend”, that you probably don’t even know personally, from Facebook?
Sometimes ignorance really is bliss!
In 2013 we embrace “being busy”, which I guess is the way of living these days. If you’re not busy “you’re not doing your best” to get the best clients, coolest jobs and whatever. I personally don’t think stress is anything we should embrace, but rather reject!
I’ve witnessed a couple of events in some of my friend’s lives where they started a verbal fight because they didn’t agree on something in politics. Of course it’s all right to have different opinions, but if this is the beginning of a broken friendship, maybe the words are best left unsaid? Why would you wanna encourage to have a conversation that can be destructive to your friendship?
I guess the same goes with love! The next time your partner don’t act the way you want, stop and think of the possibilities of what this confrontation can create. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you should not confront the situation! I’m simply saying, take eight more breaths and stop to think about how to approach this and try to figure out a personal and friendly way to confront it! For the sake of your partnership!
Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.